The nature of early, emotional connections to others is important, especially for the future development of sheep. The bonding and attachment provides the working template for all subsequent relationships within the body. A solid and healthy attachment with a primary caregiver appears to be associated with a high probability of healthy relationships with other people. Poor attachment from the Shepherds or primary caregivers appears to be associated with a host of emotional and developing behavioral problems down the road.
Bonding with the members is the process of forming an attachment. Just as bonding is the term used with gluing one object to another. Bonding is our emotional glue to become connected to another. Bonding, therefore, involves a set of behaviors that will help lead to an emotional attachment.
One major item to remember is, shepherding must come at the right time in the lives of the body. If we’re late, then it becomes a major “Cause and Effect” issue, primarily the cause that causes the effect. Effects could become hazardous.
An emotionally and physically healthy Shepherd will be drawn to the Body of Christ. The Shepherds will feel a physical longing to smell, cuddle, rock, coo, and gaze into the eyes of the loving lambs. In turn the lambs will respond by snuggling, babbling, smiling, and clinging to the Shepherds. This reciprocal, positive feedback loop…this maternal-lamb “dance” is where attachment begins.
Ok, here is the real measure of Shepherding: In sound byte version Acts 20:28 says, ”Keep the wolves out and keep the sheep safe.” Shepherds do not allow the “Bewitchers” around the Sheep (Galatians 3:1ff.). Titus 1:10-11 reminds us to keep the rebel forces, babblers and deceivers away.
Shepherds will be on call 24/7 everyday of the week. We must allow the Spiritual virtues of I Timothy 3:1-8 to be upon the Shepherds. This is the call of God upon us!
Don Parker
Stephenville, Texas
Bonding with the members is the process of forming an attachment. Just as bonding is the term used with gluing one object to another. Bonding is our emotional glue to become connected to another. Bonding, therefore, involves a set of behaviors that will help lead to an emotional attachment.
One major item to remember is, shepherding must come at the right time in the lives of the body. If we’re late, then it becomes a major “Cause and Effect” issue, primarily the cause that causes the effect. Effects could become hazardous.
An emotionally and physically healthy Shepherd will be drawn to the Body of Christ. The Shepherds will feel a physical longing to smell, cuddle, rock, coo, and gaze into the eyes of the loving lambs. In turn the lambs will respond by snuggling, babbling, smiling, and clinging to the Shepherds. This reciprocal, positive feedback loop…this maternal-lamb “dance” is where attachment begins.
Ok, here is the real measure of Shepherding: In sound byte version Acts 20:28 says, ”Keep the wolves out and keep the sheep safe.” Shepherds do not allow the “Bewitchers” around the Sheep (Galatians 3:1ff.). Titus 1:10-11 reminds us to keep the rebel forces, babblers and deceivers away.
Shepherds will be on call 24/7 everyday of the week. We must allow the Spiritual virtues of I Timothy 3:1-8 to be upon the Shepherds. This is the call of God upon us!
Don Parker
Stephenville, Texas
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